I don’t trust words, I trust vibes. People can tell you anything, but a vibe tells you everything.
Read this somewhere …it made sense as I could co-relate with my experiences.
It was a beautiful morning…
I splashed water on my face and was ready with my walking shoes for my favorite activity – morning walk.
Lovely breeze… little mist in the air…crystal clear environment…lush green lawns…palm trees swaying …no vehicles on the road…absolute treat for people like me who love to walk in the mornings.
The cool breeze on my skin felt refreshing; I walked more than my usual rounds and enjoyed.
With mind full of positivity I walked back and as I entered the hall I was offered my favorite tender coconut water and I felt pampered.
No, I am not at some health spa or a resort….and no uniform clad staff is pampering me.
I am at my co-sister’s home and the lovely gesture was from none other than my co-sister.
You know what; these little gestures from people make me feel loved or for that matter anybody would feel loved and wanted.
My co-sister came into the family good 13 years after I walked into my second home; my parents’ home always being my first home.
Even before she walked into this home, I had made up my mind that I will bond with her. Mind it, I did not even know who would be the girl but still I had this strong desire that whoever she be, I will have great relations with her.
You see, if you have strong positive desire, you will find that things start working in your favour to help you achieve your desire. The same thing happened here; my co-sister turned out super sensible and my job became super simple. I did not have to make extra efforts to maintain good relations; it became effortless.
Hats off to this generation; they know how to manage relations keeping their dignity intact.
Coming to my point, relations have to be built by heart. My father often talked about vibes.
He told me once that you should be careful of what you say or think. When you talk or even think about someone (positive or negative), it easily passes to that person through vibes. If you think carefully you will notice that you enjoy the company of some people more than others. That is because you are getting good vibes from that person.
Recently I had the opportunity of having my cousin in my neighborhood. He would visit us whenever he found time. Now every member in my house including my domestic help used to look forward to his visits. His visits created a nice aura in the house and made the whole atmosphere happy. He carried good vibes which rubbed on all of us.
Vibes are actually the feeling that someone or something gives you; a distinctive emotional quality or atmosphere that is sensed or experienced by someone. It is the vibes that you send people (positive or negative) that work as energy that pulls people towards you or warns them to keep their distance. All of us are throwing energies all the time and therefore if you wish to build good relations make sure your energy is positive towards that person. It is a good idea to focus on positive vibes while negative ones are best ignored.
If I talk ill about somebody behind his/her back and try to be sweet in front of them, somehow my true feelings get conveyed while if I nurture good thoughts about somebody and then even if I don’t display any gestures still the good vibes get conveyed.
Recently I heard somewhere …what you can’t say don’t think….and that is I guess the mantra for happy and healthy relations. But I guess being human, it is not possible always. The world is full of people with different mindset and perceptions, nothing right or wrong just different. So there are bound to be conflicts and differences. The best we can do I guess is to appreciate the positive and ignore the negative as per our perceptions.
Vibes come from heart and are truly genuine.
I talked about my co-sister as an illustration because I remembered my visit to her place but like her I have many people in my life with whom I feel great. And for the little rest – because it is just not possible that the whole world will love me, there are bound to be people who will have grudges against me or I will have grudges but then I read a lovely quote recently –
‘I don’t hold grudges, you just become irrelevant’.
I intend to enjoy my life with people who love me and try loving those who love me a little less and hope I remain relevant in the lives of people who matter.
So my dear co-sister I intend to keep you always relevant in my life.